Where to find a wife, where to find a husband

Where To Find A Husband / Wife

Now that we know what you want to ask and who you want to ask, you just have to find that person! In a way, this is both a lot easier and a lot harder than it sounds, as shown in the key to a healthy relationship. Let’s say the person on your list can usually be found in say, a dance class. So you go dancing and eventually find this person. However, since you weren’t really interested in dancing to begin with, this relationship will fade away once your interest in dancing fades. You need long term common interests in order to spend time together!

There is, of course, a chance that the person in dance class may have a long term common interest with you, but why not start at the place of your long term common interest? For example, if you’ve sung your whole life, why not start at the place where you sing? If the dance place person has a long term interest in singing, you’re bound to meet him/her at singing events at some point!

At your singing venues, simply talk to people - it is likely that they are life long singers too! Additionally, you don’t ever have to plan dates in order to get to know the person. Each time you naturally meet at your place of long term common interest, it is automatically a “date”!

For example, one of my long term common interests is coming up with theories about the world in order to expand my awareness and understanding of the universe. In order to do so, I started this website. It is precisely this common interest that attracted the girl that I am in love with.

Were things ever awkward? No, because we had a reason to be talking.
Did we ever run out of things to talk about? No, because we were interested in discussing things to expand our view of the world - a common interest.
Did we ever have to worry about planning a date? No, because events related to our common interest just popped up.

Common interests are the reason that two people should be together in the first place, offering each other value and making each other’s lives better. Long term common interests just mean that the two people would be doing this for a long time! :-)

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t go to dance class if you actually are interested in dancing though. If you are working on expanding your long term interests and discovering yourself, then that is perfectly reasonable! Just be aware that the relationships forged there will drop if it turns out that you really weren’t all that interested in it.

And that’s all there is to it!

To summarize:
1) Find out what marriage means to you.
2) Write down the list of qualities in the person you want to marry.
3) Start looking for this person at your normal places of long term interest.
4) Understand yourself and develop long term interests/a life purpose if you don’t have any.
5) Get to know this person and see if they fit your list of qualities, then ask them to marry you if they fit :-)
6) Repeat steps 2-5 until you marry the right person!

Just have faith and soon, the right person will be standing in front of you saying “I do”!