Conclusion

Conclusion

• Looking for someone to spend your life with is not an easy task and marriage is not a decision to be entered into lightly. Be prepared to spend some time and go through some trial and error before you find a woman that is perfect for you. Knowing what type of woman you're looking for and introducing yourself to those women who pique your interest can greatly increase your chances of finding your life partner.

Go online

Step 4: Go Online

• If you're not having any luck meeting women in person, or are exceptionally busy, another option to meet a potential wife is to join a dating website. These online services allow you to create a personal profile and search the profiles of women who are looking to meet someone. If you find someone you are interested in, you can send her a personal message and decide whether you want to start chatting online, on the phone, or meet in person.

Get out there

Step 3: Get Out There

• In order to meet your future wife, you're going to have to get out of the house and make a concerted effort to introduce yourself to people. It's highly unlikely that you're going to meet your future mate right away, so make an effort to talk to as many women as you can. Even if the ladies you meet don't turn out to be a potential wife, you still may have met some new friends.
• In order to meet women that have similar interests as you, consider joining clubs and associations centered around your hobbies. For example, if you're an avid reader, join a book club; if you enjoy the outdoors, look for hiking or biking groups in your area; if you're a single parent, join your local PTA.

Tell your friends

Step 2: Tell Your Friends

• If you've watched a lot of Hollywood movies, you probably think that all set-ups end in disaster. Although this may often be the case, your friends can also be good judges of what type of woman you may be compatible with. Talk to friends, family members and co-workers who you trust and respect; let them know you are looking to meet a woman and mention the qualities that are important to you. Don't ask them to set you up—just put the seed in their brains and hopefully, they will think of you if they happen to run into someone they think you may be compatible with.

Figure out what you want

Step 1: Figure Out What You Want

When looking for a lilfe partner, you'll want to find someone with whom you are compatible on most levels. You are more likely to have a successful long-term relationship if you pair up with someone who has similar goals and morals as you do. To discover what type of partner will be a good fit for you, sit down and make a list of the things that are most important to you in a mate. Some things to consider are:

1. Are you looking for a woman who will be a stay-at-home mother, or would you prefer a woman who is independent and career-driven?
2. If you are religious, you'll likely want to find a woman whose faith is compatible with your own
3. Are you looking for a partner who is adventurous, spontaneous and willing to go jet-setting across the world at the drop of a hat? If so, getting involved with a woman who is a homebody or afraid of flying is probably not a good idea

Wife after the wedding

If you're sick of spending your Saturday nights alone and feeling like the third wheel when hanging out with your friends and their wives, maybe it's time for you to start searching for your special someone. This guide will offer tips on how to find a wife.

Although living the life of a bachelor can be fun for a while, most men reach a point in their lives where they start thinking about the next step. If you've sick of the bar scene and feel as though you're ready to settle down with one woman and perhaps even have children, the next step is to go out there and find your perfect mate. However, finding someone to share your life with is often easier said than done and you're likely to go through a few duds before finding a woman you're compatible with.

How to Find a New Wife

Where to find a wife, where to find a husband

Where To Find A Husband / Wife

Now that we know what you want to ask and who you want to ask, you just have to find that person! In a way, this is both a lot easier and a lot harder than it sounds, as shown in the key to a healthy relationship. Let’s say the person on your list can usually be found in say, a dance class. So you go dancing and eventually find this person. However, since you weren’t really interested in dancing to begin with, this relationship will fade away once your interest in dancing fades. You need long term common interests in order to spend time together!

There is, of course, a chance that the person in dance class may have a long term common interest with you, but why not start at the place of your long term common interest? For example, if you’ve sung your whole life, why not start at the place where you sing? If the dance place person has a long term interest in singing, you’re bound to meet him/her at singing events at some point!

At your singing venues, simply talk to people - it is likely that they are life long singers too! Additionally, you don’t ever have to plan dates in order to get to know the person. Each time you naturally meet at your place of long term common interest, it is automatically a “date”!

For example, one of my long term common interests is coming up with theories about the world in order to expand my awareness and understanding of the universe. In order to do so, I started this website. It is precisely this common interest that attracted the girl that I am in love with.

Were things ever awkward? No, because we had a reason to be talking.
Did we ever run out of things to talk about? No, because we were interested in discussing things to expand our view of the world - a common interest.
Did we ever have to worry about planning a date? No, because events related to our common interest just popped up.

Common interests are the reason that two people should be together in the first place, offering each other value and making each other’s lives better. Long term common interests just mean that the two people would be doing this for a long time! :-)

This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t go to dance class if you actually are interested in dancing though. If you are working on expanding your long term interests and discovering yourself, then that is perfectly reasonable! Just be aware that the relationships forged there will drop if it turns out that you really weren’t all that interested in it.

And that’s all there is to it!

To summarize:
1) Find out what marriage means to you.
2) Write down the list of qualities in the person you want to marry.
3) Start looking for this person at your normal places of long term interest.
4) Understand yourself and develop long term interests/a life purpose if you don’t have any.
5) Get to know this person and see if they fit your list of qualities, then ask them to marry you if they fit :-)
6) Repeat steps 2-5 until you marry the right person!

Just have faith and soon, the right person will be standing in front of you saying “I do”!

How To Find A Wife, How to find a Husband

As a guy who has faced his fair share of rejections and successes in terms of dating, there are several observations I’d like to share about finding the right person to marry. With every success or “failure” in this area, something new and interesting comes up. Please be aware though that I am currently in love, so my analysis may be somewhat biased. Additionally, I am male, so this will be from a male perspective (but it should be very applicable to women too since the underlying basis is about relationships in general).

Do You Want A Wife / Husband?

Whenever you have a problem, it is always a good idea to consider what you want first. After all, how can something be a problem if it isn’t relevant to something you want? Knowing the outcome you want also lets you know what exactly constitutes a solution to the problem.

In this case, the problem is “You’d like to find a husband or wife”, so the first thing to consider is whether you actually want to be married. After all, if you have no desire to actually commit to anyone, no amount of searching will do you any good. Do you want someone to spend the rest of your life with? Do you want an activity partner that you have sex with once in a while (this is not necessarily separate from the person you want to spend your life with)? Do you just want a sex partner?

Keep in mind that “being married” is just a label, like “dating”, or “girlfriend”. “Married” people can range from enemies trying to make each other’s lives miserable, to activity partners who happen to live together, to someone you are madly in love with and want to start a family with. So when you figure out if you really want to be married, also make it clear to yourself what being married means to you.

Fill in the blank:

This is what marriage means to me:

When you’re clear on what you want, we can take a look at what you can do to accomplish that! Take a hard look at your definition. Does your definition of marriage require an actual wedding? Maybe you wrote something like “Two people who love each other and want to spend the rest of their lives together”. Well, that doesn’t require an actual “legal” marriage! You can tell someone “I love you and want to spend the rest of my life with you”, and if he/she says “I love you too - that sounds great!” then you two are “married” according to that definition. The wedding wouldn’t actually be required! If you definitely need a wedding, then a wedding would be part of your definition of a marriage.

“What’s the point of being so nitpicky?” you may wonder. Well, it’s to make sure you know what you want well enough that you can express it to the other person. Imagine the following scenario:

You excitedly asked the other person, “Will you marry me?”
And he/she replies, “Yes!!!”
Then, “Great! When’s the wedding?”
“How about we don’t have a wedding?”
“I thought you want to get married.”
“I do!”
“Huh? How do we do that without a wedding?”

This is actually a “good” case where the difference in definition is apparent before legally binding stuff occurs. What if this conversation happens with one person wanting kids and the other not after they are married for a while? Can you imagine the emotional pain and legal headaches? You need to be clear on what you expect from a husband/wife, so that when he/she says “Yes!!”, it means what you think it means. The only way you can do that is if you know what you’re asking!!

Who Do You Want As A Wife / Husband?

Once you’ve figured out what a marriage entails (so that you know what to ask a potential husband / wife), the question is who to ask! Take a while and think about what qualities you need in someone for marriage.

Fill in the blank:

Here are the qualities I need in a husband / wife:

Like the definition of marriage above, this list will help you determine what you are looking for, so that you spend a minimum amount of time pursuing the wrong people. It lets you determine quickly who to ask and what to ask.

Without this list, one of the most common things that happen is that you meet someone who satisfies some of the qualities on your list. You devote a significant portion of your time into that relationship (say a year or two), only to realize later that this person simply does not have the qualities you need to become your husband or wife. Think about how many people you meet through the course of a year or two. By devoting most of your time to a relatively hopeless relationship, your deprive yourself of the chance of exploring other relationships that might give you what you want!

Consider someone who goes from suboptimal relationship to suboptimal relationship, each lasting 2 years with 2 months in between. Say normally, you have 80 hours a month to socialize with people, but in a relationship (since you need to spend alone time together), you only have 20 hours to socialize with other people. Outside of a relationship, you would have 1920 hours to socialize with people. Locked in a “bad” relationship, you would only have 480 hours to invest in your other potential relationships. You just lost 3/4 of your time by hanging on to a relationship that doesn’t work! Additionally, if you do happen to meet the right person in that 480 hours while you’re in a relationship, you may not be able to pursue him / her!! Since it took you only 2 months (about 160 hours) to find this suboptimal relationship, you have essentially lost the chance for about 12 other potential candidates! (It’s not as black and white as this as we’ll discuss in the where to find a husband / wife section)

Of course, this doesn’t mean you won’t enter into relationships that do satisfy your list and find out later that your list isn’t quite complete. It might take you a few relationships to get your list right. This once again points to the importance of having an accurate idea of what you want! Wouldn’t it be better to take a few months and think it over clearly instead of spending years in relationships that don’t work?

After careful consideration, my list is pretty simple:
Is Single
Open And Honest
Educated
Flexible/Open Minded - Easily Adapts To Change
Has Great Listening And Conflict Resolution Skills
Knows What She Wants
Female
Available - Able To Fit Me Into Her Life
Has Compatible Goals
Loves And Appreciates Me For Who I Am

After I made this list, it only took about a year for me to find what I feel is the perfect person for me.

Partly, it’s because the list allowed me to filter out people very fast. It only takes a few questions to figure out if someone has a decent idea of what they want in life, so that the amount of time invested in “rejecting” a potential candidate is highly minimized.

This does require a bit of faith and a lot of security, as you won’t be going on a lot of dates or doing a lot of “stuff” with people. You’ll need confidence in knowing that what you are doing is right. What this does is maximize your chance of finding the right person and minimize your time spent with the wrong people.

Another great part of this strategy is that it minimizes emotional damage from tangling with the people who don’t fit your criteria, since you get out really early before getting emotionally involved. It also minimizes your chances of rejection, since the one person you find will be highly compatible!